Back in school days I always thought that there is right and there is wrong. This person is a good person and that person is a bad person. I could easily label people and move on as if I served justice.
I was definitely young at that time but soon realized with the different experiences in life that there really is no wrong/right or bad/good. Its all about the persons perspective.
Life throws different challenges for everyone who comes to this planet. You look at some people and at their lives and think , "They are so lucky and that their lives are perfect. What worry in the world do they have?" Those same people maybe looking at you and thinking the same thing. What is gold is metal for some, and what is metal is gold for some. What each individual has gone through is a book in itself. So many experiences with so many people makes a persons life very interesting and unique in its own way. Even a murderers life would seem to be a normal one to some. Circumstances and support system plays a vital role in everyone's life.
The environment in which one is raised often influences the persons perspective. They see and observe their surroundings,the way people talk around them, the way people behave and the things they do. When you are young, you absorb those very readily and make them a part of you when you are a adult. The human race being so diverse with so many cultures and different religions have produced people with different thought process and who go about leading a way of life which they believe is right. But what ever be the environment, if it has the bare essentials of love, respect and humility, it can make a gem of a human being.
In a country like ours we see the differences in thought processes clearly. Without a doubt we can say that people from north and very different from south in terms of thinking, talking and lifestyle. A state like Punjab and a state like Kerala can be a more specific example.If you are from Kerala you have the notion that people from the north are more into show off and are unrealistically extravagant and waste a lot. They(most of them) believe simplicity should be the way of life and that everything should be in its bare minimum requirement, be it food, clothing or how their houses are decorated. If you are from Punjab, you have the notion that people from south are way too narrow minded and have no zeal for life. They (most of them) believe that life should be lived king sized and everything should be enjoyed with enthusiasm so that there are no regrets in life. Clearly, both are right in their own ways. The above statements will definitely be a controversial topic for my friends. I can surely not say that one of them is wrong. Some people can, because it is their perspective. Do have your perspectives but please dont label anyone or any culture or any race with being wrong.
The human brain, being the most complex thing that humanity has ever seen, works in a very complicated fashion for which we really do not have an algorithm. What one person is thinking at a point of time will always be a mystery to the other person. A husband looking at his wife would be wondering that his wife maybe thinking on what she could do for her parents while in reality she would be wondering how her former lover is doing. Jealousy, possessiveness, ego and bad attitude are a result of negative thinking and negative environment. No one is bad and has the intent of doing things which hurt people. Sometimes the words that come out from people, which were not very good to hear for you, may not be a result of their bad mentality or thinking but simply a product of the thousand emotions they are going through. Meditation and de-stressing your mind is a very important art one needs to learn. One should never bring the stresses of work to their home. They can discuss it, but the frustration should never be let out on the loved ones. One needs to find their venting source. Be it talking, writing, running, but something that does not hurt anyone or anything. Everyone needs that to survive this crazy world where there is no right or/and wrong!
Peace!
